‘Can we talk about it later?’
Is what I heard.
It sounded exactly as serious as it was meant to be.
I was in the common area of the toilet.
‘I am at work, will you be home later?’
‘Can we talk about it then?’
The girl, I overheard, continued.
The door of the toilet opened.
The girl came out. Not expecting me to be there.
Not that I scared her.
‘Is everything ok?’ I asked.
I had finished my shift and was on my way home.
‘Yeah, sort of..’, she said to me.
‘I met this guy, just once and then I went out with this other guy’.
‘Now the first one is calling’.
‘I don’t really know what to do’.
I just looked at the girl, when she was talking to me.
The way she was talking to him, sounded like she was in a serious commitment and something really serious should be talked over. It was so serious that she had the feeling and urge to make a phone call in the toilet. That she had to break off whatever she was doing to almost desperately convince him to talk later about it.
But she had only met him once.
And she had met another guy after him.
‘It shouldn’t be so serious’.
An assumption I had made in my mind.
‘Was this coming from a good place?’
I was asking myself in silence.
It was reminding me of a younger self, I once was.
Standing in the toilet.
Convincing, talking to a guy.
‘Can we talk about it later?’
‘I am at work, I can’t talk about it right now’.
The desperation in her voice was the same as mine.
Different toilets, same voice, same situation.
A feeling that I had done something wrong.
Had I really done some wrong?
I asked myself again in silent.
A reflection of myself I saw in her.
Had she done something wrong?
Had he done something wrong?
Was it just her, or were they both at stake?
Or was it just a miscommunication of a misperception of what is socially accepted after just one date?
That is a question.
Apparently both had no clue what to do.
Just a few seconds had passed.
‘Interesting’, is what I said to her.
I had washed my hands and we both walked out of the common area of the toilet.
But if there was more time and she had asked me what to do.
I would have told her.
‘I believe that after one date, nothing is real yet’.
‘From both sides’.
That’s my genuine opinion.
Both are free to do whatever.
However, to me, it shows that the guys apparently has feelings.
Calling her, after finding out that she has been on another date with some guy.
The way she was speaking to him, it sounded like she also liked him.
Both, just don’t know what to do with the feelings.
Perhaps by her going on a date with someone else, the feelings were brought up and propelled in a way forward that they had to make a decision of how to move forward and make a decision to commit or not?
A genuine question.
I am not saying they have to commit and also not saying it’s a recipe the commitment will last, but that is just what the situation and short rendez-vous in the common of the toilet was telling me.