A documentary I watched.
Some time ago.
It passed my eyes when scrolling on my phone.
It kept lingering in my head.
For months and months.
I knew there was a story behind it, because the minute I saw it, I knew there was.
Almost the same when you meet a person and you know exactly what and how.
That you need to be with them and what not.
It sounds like a fairytale or a story of love.
For a second I thought that documentary was.
It was about holiday love.
The stories are about women who have been promised eternal love, but have ended up handing over thousands of pounds and being left brokenhearted by men they met on holiday and fell in love with.
I am still figuring out why and how they ended up with them.
The fact remains these women had to endure some hardships in life.
I just couldn’t fully grasp what it meant.
To be in that kind of situation.
These women believe it is real and that makes it quite sad to some extent.
It is hard for me to shed tears for people that are ignorant or just have no clue to start with.
The question remains for me to ask : ‘Should they marry and get involved in that kind of way in the first place?’
For some it is because they are much older than the one they think they found true love with.
I guess loneliness plays a part in that and the pressure of society to fit in.
Gaining a form of respect.
Money is quite often a reason.
These women believe their loved one is in need and they should be providing them with the money they ask for.
At least the reason I thought is behind it.
To make it look good just a little for these women.
The only thing I can come up with is that they think that this is what a relationship is or even a marriage entails.
Of course I don’t know what these women are thinking.
Since that never happened to me.
To say, I can’t tell if that is true.
I mean, being single is still my love status.
When watching this documentary, it was making me think that this could be a reason for me, why I am not out there.
I’d rather spend money on me then giving it to someone that might not ever return it.
I mean, we are talking about thousands and thousands of dollars/euros/pounds.
But even if it is just 5 euro’s. I can buy some nice things from that.
I can’t give an example right away, but I believe you get my point.
It says something about me, how I handle myself through the way I handle my money.
With care and thought.
A way to keep those guys away, who think I am a pot of gold or a jackpot.
Believing someone they think I am.
Anyway, another thing I was thinking is that the weight of marriage can make you do things you don’t have control over.
That could be a reason why these things happen to these women.
To give solace to them, suffering with these situations.
Where I can only watch it from a far, at a safe distance.
Warm under the covers of my bed, where I watched that documentary.
The pillow was a shield wrapped in my arms.
But there is more to it.
For you to have a complete perspective.
Some of these men stay until they have their green card fixed or any other paper that makes them stay in a country overseas.
Honestly, I can’t believe this is still happening.
But what can I do about that?
That is beyond my control and nothing that I have power over.
I mean, I can only write it off.
To get a perspective about myself and how this kind of world is amazing to me.
In some way I feel just sorry for these women and at the same time there is not a tear I can cry.
The starting point of all of this is, with advice one of these women was seeking.
I don’t know anymore if it was for herself, that she was on the go to find her answer why this happened to her.
Or to get a clearer view on how to help these kinds of women.
She went to a guy that was giving spiritual advice.
He was wearing a mask.
I thought it was odd, but when it comes to spirituality it is supposed to be like that.
To prevent people thinking it is a person who is saying it and the words come from them directly.
A way to make sure that message comes across, to not lose its power and have it spread as it should.
From this spiritual entity.
Some guy wearing a mask.
He answered fast, like he forgot to breathe or something.
It made me aware of those words to keep them stored where they should.
When this woman asked what this advice would be for those women out there.
He said : ‘Keep your legs closed’.
His words were cut short and they felt sharp.
It could make you angry if you didn’t understand it was spiritual.
It was those words that stayed with me, throughout my journey ever since I heard them.
As an anchor for me when traveling.
Because it can happen when we think we can just do whatever.
Most of the time this is when we are without boundaries, on holiday as an example.
Where we are letting our guard down for the mundane and common.
This is where these men come in, unless you protect yourself.
Not in the sense of condoms, but I guess these protect in a way.
If you wonder where babies are born and all those other shit stories.
Just for you to second guess when you meet that someone.
But I guess the easiest way, perhaps even a shortcut to prevent any harm.
For your health, wallet, sanity perhaps even safety.
Is just to keep your legs closed.
Where these men walk away from you, because I do think they can sense that and you will come on someone’s radar where you might want to open up to.